Everyone knows that a divorce is an extremely emotional experience to go through, but did you know that experts have actually identified emotional stages that are typically part of ending a relationship? If you are currently going through a divorce, knowing these stages can help you to normalize your experience and prepare yourself for what may come, from an emotional standpoint.
Asset and debt division is one of the most contentious parts of many divorce proceedings. Even couples who’ve come to an amicable understanding about other issues (including child custody, spousal support, pet custody and more) may find themselves fighting about debt division. In a community property state, debts incurred during the marriage are usually divided equally by the court unless the parties come up with an alternative arrangement.
A sad truth is that thousands and thousands of California couples divorce every year. After all, California has one of the highest divorce rates in the nation. It doesn’t mean that every divorce in our state ends up as a nasty, drawn-out event, though. In fact, most divorces are settled by the agreement of both parties.
Many people are interested in potentially mediating their divorce dispute but want a bit more information about the process. This post will hopefully answer some lingering questions and give you more information to determine if mediation is right for you.
We tend to hear the term “mediation” and think that it encompasses a single technique for dispute resolution. That actually isn’t the case, though. There are several different types of mediation that might work for a particular case.
We discussed in a previous post how some demographics – Generation X and Millennials – are bucking the trend of divorce and staying married.
It can be extremely hard to find common ground with someone who has different ideas of what is right and wrong. It can be even more challenging to settle disputes when the parties to the dispute have deeply rooted and personal conflicts. These types of interpersonal challenges can exist when California couples choose to end their marriages in divorce, and for this reason, some divorces are more confrontational than others.
Marriages can become difficult when conflict overtakes the good and positive elements of the marital relationship. Sometimes those conflicts may surround changes that the partners have experienced in their personal lives, and sometimes the conflicts involve true disagreements and insurmountable differences that have become more apparent over time. Getting to the decision to file for divorce can occur simultaneously for partners, but more often happens for one partner before the other.
It may sound crazy, but not every person who plans to divorce their spouse hates or despises their soon-to-be ex. In fact, in California and jurisdictions throughout the country, many divorces involve individuals who simply have grown apart from their partners but who wish them no ill will. For people who only want to end their relationships and are able to do so on good terms with their partners, a litigated divorce may not be the best option.
While it is not uncommon for divorcing spouses to become adversarial, it can be considerably more productive - and much less emotionally draining - when spouses remain amicable throughout the divorce process. In California, one way to help encourage amicability is by working together with a neutral, third party known as a mediator. Mediation can help resolve any issues, such as maintenance, or child custody and support matters, that the spouses have not yet agreed upon.