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Providing options for different paths to divorce

It may sound crazy, but not every person who plans to divorce their spouse hates or despises their soon-to-be ex. In fact, in California and jurisdictions throughout the country, many divorces involve individuals who simply have grown apart from their partners but who wish them no ill will. For people who only want to end their relationships and are able to do so on good terms with their partners, a traditional divorce may not be the best option.

Family mediation can ease the divorce process in California

While it is not uncommon for divorcing spouses to become adversarial, it can be considerably more productive - and much less emotionally draining - when spouses remain amicable throughout the divorce process. In California, one way to help encourage amicability is by working together with a neutral, third party known as a mediator. Mediation can help resolve any issues, such as maintenance, or child custody and support matters, that the spouses have not yet agreed upon.

Seeking resolution through divorce mediation

When a California marriage has come to its end, there is no doubt that the parties to it have spent more time fighting than they ever thought possible. By the time they decide that divorce is their only option they may want to seek out a means of achieving marital dissolution without having to argue about every detail of their post-divorce lives. This can mean avoiding court all together and using divorce mediation as the means of bringing their legal relationship to its end.

Results of mediated divorce may be better than litigated divorce

Are all divorces the same? Readers of this California family law blog may know that the answer to this question is complicated. While all divorces that reach their end successfully sever the legal bonds that hold two people together in marriage, not all divorces follow the same paths to finality. The unique characteristics of the divorcing parties and the issues that they prioritize as important can cause their divorce proceedings to take on varying and diverse forms.

Staying out of divorce court

People often hear about divorces when the issues become highly contentious and acrimonious. All throughout California readers of this San Francisco-based family law blog may have personal experience or know individuals who have had to fight to get what they wanted when their marriage came to its end. Contested divorces are challenging on everyone involved, including the parties to the proceedings and any children that they may share.

We are available to help during your mediation

When parties agree to participate in the mediation process, as an alternative to the litigation process, they are not giving up their right to legal representation and/or support.  Some of the objectives of mediation are to hear the concerns of each of the parties and reach a resolution that addresses those concerns.  The mediator has no authority to resolve issues.  The skilled mediator uses a process that is designed to assist the parties in reaching their own agreement. 

What happens if divorce mediation does not work for me?

Divorce mediation is an alternative process to a traditional courtroom divorce. It involves the divorcing parties coming together, discussing their expectations for their divorce and reaching durable, mutual agreements about how their lives will proceed once their marriage is over. In California, divorce mediation does not involve a judge or other third-party decision-maker; everything must be agreed between the parties. It is up to the spouses, with the help of their mediator, to move the process forward to a conclusion.  

Do you have divorce questions? We have your answers.

Divorce is a relatively common occurrence here in California, as well as throughout the rest of the United States. Readers of this San Francisco-based family law blog may have experienced divorce firsthand or may have friends or relatives who have worked through their own divorce proceedings. While many people recognize that divorce ends marriages and divides their unified lives, they may not be familiar with the diversity of paths couples may take to bring their marriage to their ends.

Mediators help alleviate the stress and uncertainly of a divorce

Going through a divorce is an extremely stressful time for any couple. There can be many unknowns that make the future uncertain and the individuals involved may not fully understand the process, leading to even more worry and stress. With so many things left up in the air, divorce mediation can allow couples to move forward in a level-headed manner, making decisions that are beneficial to everyone involved.

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