Co-parenting after a divorce can be difficult. The situation can become even more complex when parents disagree on how to parent a genderfluid child.

Gender fluidity occurs when a person does not identify as either a male or a female. Sometimes the preferred gender-neutral pronoun is they rather than he or she. According to CNN, close to 3 percent of youth in some states are now identifying as gender fluid. This can create a high point of conflict between divorced parents when they hold different views on the issue.

For parents who disagree, it is important to develop healthy co-parenting techniques. Consider these tips:

  • Remain calm: The most useful thing you can do is to remain calm when you are communicating with the other parent and your child.
  • Try to understand the other parent’s point of view: Just as you have your child’s best interest at heart, it is important to remember that the other parent most likely does too. Instead of engaging in a fight, try calmly discussing the sticking points. It can also be beneficial if your child observes you treating each other in a respectful way.
  • Try to understand your child’s point of view: Whether you agree with your child or not, communicating your continued love is crucial. Asking questions can also help you understand your child’s point of view or present his/her/they point of view to the other parent.
  • Speak to a trained professional: It can be beneficial to speak with a trained professional about co-parenting a genderfluid child. Trained professionals have seen these types of situations before and can help you co-parent with someone you might not agree with. You might also receive tools to help you co-parent when different disputes arise in the future.

There are many situations outside of gender fluidity that can create conflict between co-parents. If you are divorced and are facing a parenting or custody dispute, consult an experienced family law attorney to discuss your options and find an arrangement that is right for you.